One of the hardest parts of planning your wedding day can be how to create your wedding guest list. Who to invite? Who to skip?
It can be difficult to figure it out and make everyone happy. A lot of people can have an opinion on who you should invite to your weddings (especially parents – whether or not they’re helping pay for your big day). Here’s a few tips to help you get started, and also narrow it down.
First things first, you’ll want to decide a few things ahead of time, or use these to narrow down your wedding guest list again at the end.
Will you have children in attendance? Are you including all children, or only immediate children in your family/those you see often (nieces, nephews, bffs)?
What is your rule on “plus 1s?” Can anyone bring a “+1?” Or only certain people (for example those with long-term spouses and those who are married)?
What is the COMFORATBLE guest capacity at your venue? **I suggest making a guest list before you choose your venue – or at least a rough draft – so you’re able to accommodate everyone you must have in attendance on your most important day**
Estimate with a few catering companies what the average cost for beverages, hors d’oeuvres, and dinner packages are per person. Are you going to have an open bar? An open bar for cocktail hour? Only beer and wine? Maybe soda/coffee, and a cash bar only? This will help you decide your average cost per person so you know when you’re at your guest list limit for your budget.
Start with an “immediate family” list, “extended family” list, and “friends list.” Then, go ahead and make a star or mark those who you *know* you absolutely cannot spend your day special day without. Different people have different families, small vs. large, close vs. not so close. Don’t stress about the guest list being equal, but be fair.
If you answered “no” to any of these questions, especially if you’re running out of room on your list or close to budget, it might be smart to cross them off your list.
Remember – although I’m sure you love everyone in your family, your wedding is not a family reunion.
Some wedding websites will say, “If you invite one aunt, you have to invite the rest of your aunts and uncles!” I definitely don’t see this to be true and find many exceptions to this.
Now, if you have an unlimited budget and are someone who wants to keep the “peace” at every chance you get, go ahead and invite them all. However, I don’t think you should feel bad for inviting only your closest aunts, uncles, or cousins – especially if you are planning on a small or intimate wedding and only want to be surrounded by your most favorite people.
Hopefully this will help you to thoughtfully and easily create your wedding guest list!